Have you ever realized that actively ‘trying’ to manifest something was actually blocking it from happening? If you feel like you’ve been chasing healing or your desires without success, you’re not alone. I think I finally understand the paradox of why chasing your dreams pushes them away, and it all comes down to a simple shift in perspective.
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The Pendulum Effect of Desire
Imagine your desire is like a pendulum. When you chase it, grasping for it, what does the pendulum do? It swings away. This is what most people don’t realize. When you really want something, you are actually creating resistance to it. You automatically create this swing away.
This happens because when you say, “I want this to happen,” you are essentially telling the universe, “I lack this.” Your focus on wanting reinforces the feeling of not having, and as a result, your manifestation automatically swings away from you.
Why Chasing Your Dreams Pushes Them Away
Desire itself is not a bad thing, but our attachment to it creates problems. Because we live in a polarized reality, we automatically create the opposite counterpart to our desire without even realizing it. By focusing on what you want, you are also subconsciously defining what you don’t want and, more importantly, what you don’t have.
Unfortunately, our focus often goes toward the undesired part of creation. Why? Because our past experiences, stored in our subconscious mind, often dictate that lack rings more true than the possibility of achieving our desires.
The Loop of Desiring and Resisting
This internal conflict creates a powerful tension. This tension then generates a frustrating loop of desiring and resisting, over and over again. It’s this continuous cycle that makes it feel like your manifestations are on pause or completely stuck.
Neutrality is the space where you don’t need it to come because you’re whole either way. That’s the energy where everything flows to you.
How to Shift Your Energy with Neutrality
So, how do we shift out of this loop? The key is through neutrality. Neutrality is the energetic space where you don’t need your desire to manifest because you already feel whole and complete, either way. This is the powerful state where everything you desire can finally flow to you without resistance.
Why does this work? Because your true role as a creator is not to make the pendulum move. Instead, you are the actual field it swings in. Think about it. We hold the pendulum at the top only for it to swing toward the desired answer. You are the awareness, the one who remembers that you are the creator of the motion, not the maker of the motion.
Remember Your Wholeness
To help make this stick, ask yourself this question. Am I whole, or am I simply a part of it? The answer is yes, you are both. However, by choosing to remember your wholeness, you naturally create from a place of wholeness, not from one that lacks the desire.
Take a moment to shift on that. If you get it, you get it. If you don’t, you eventually will. It is inevitable just by the nature of who you are.
To embody this, let’s make it stick. Type in the comments, “I choose to remember my wholeness.”
And if you would like to anchor this in even deeper and learn how to break free from these patterns for good, come and join the Mastering Self-sabotage Masterclass. You can check the schedule for our next event at the link. I’ll see you there.
