This is a perspective shift on emotions that can give you complete freedom from needing life to be ‘good’ to feel good. The simple truth is that you are the one who chooses how you feel. You choose your thoughts and your emotions, and those two things combined result in how you show up in your life. This choice determines the opportunities you see and walk through, and the ones you miss entirely. Every single moment, you are granted a powerful opportunity to simply choose what you would like to feel.
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You Are the One Who Chooses How You Feel
Your emotions are not at the whim of your circumstances. While we often allow our situations to manage our feelings, this is ultimately a choice. We are essentially saying, “Life, give me experiences, and in turn, I will feel emotions.” However, you can flip that script at any time. You can decide, “Life, give me experiences, and I will choose how I feel.”
This is a powerful move. When you recognize that every emotion you’ve ever felt was a choice, you gain immense freedom. It’s important to understand that there are no “good” or “bad” emotions. If you genuinely feel an emotion, you should feel it, because that’s what you’re choosing in that moment.
Why You Feel What You Feel
Emotions are only ever present if some part of you wants to feel them. Whether you feel hurt, happy, sad, angry, frustrated, or excited, it doesn’t matter. Every emotion is noticed and perceived by you because a part of you wants that experience. We often use external events as a reason or justification to feel the emotion we already want to feel.
When you start to look at it this way, you gain true emotional freedom. You can then ask yourself one of the most potent questions possible: “Do I actually want to continue feeling this way?” If the answer is no, you can follow up with, “Well, what would I like to feel instead?” Once you identify a new feeling, you can begin to create it.
Reclaiming Your Power from External Reality
Often, when we try to shift our feelings, a part of us resists. It might say, “But I can’t feel that way because this thing happened, and it makes me feel differently.” This is a powerful opportunity to reclaim your power. You can begin to teach this part of yourself, the part that relies on external reality to dictate your emotions, one of the most powerful skills you will ever learn.
This skill is the ability to feel good simply because it feels good to feel good. You can say, “We would like to feel excited or joyful, not because something bad didn’t happen, but simply because it’s a good thing to feel.” Frustrating things happen, but do you want to feel good? If the answer is yes, then let’s set about feeling good.
You can introduce this part of yourself to an entirely new idea: that you can, by choice, come up with a new emotion without needing an external reason. If you want to feel a certain way, you can simply have that emotion because you want to, and because it is good to feel that way.
The Freedom to Feel Shitty (and Why It’s Liberating)
This emotional freedom applies to all feelings, even the ones we label as negative. You can give yourself the freedom to feel shitty when you want to feel shitty. The key is to recognize that it’s because a part of you wants to feel that way, and you’re just using a negative experience as permission. That’s okay. In fact, that is a beautiful thing.
Have you ever had a bad day, and a friend tries to cheer you up? Logically, you know you could let it go and be okay, but you just want to say, “I know I don’t have a reason to keep feeling shitty, but I just want to, so leave me alone.” That’s the part of you that still wants to feel that way. Until it’s done, it will keep choosing that feeling or creating experiences to justify it.
When you no longer need justification for any emotion, you set yourself free. You don’t need to create negative circumstances in your life to give yourself permission to feel bad. You can just have a crappy day for the sake of it, and then have a good day for the sake of it. The time spent in any one emotional state gets shorter, and you gain incredible freedom.
From Emotion to Thought to Opportunity
With that beautiful moment of awareness, you have completely liberated your thoughts because our thoughts are emotion given structure. That’s what thoughts are. A feeling that has been put into a narrative, a story, or an argument.
You can begin to put your chosen emotion into thoughts that align with it. This is where it gets powerful, because our thoughts create our conscious perception. Conscious perception allows us to see opportunities, while a lack of it causes us to miss them. The first opportunity is seeing that you can choose how you feel.
When you don’t need the story anymore, your life will stop manifesting situations that create reasons to feel bad. The part of you that wants to feel bad occasionally will have the freedom to just feel like shit now and again, and it’ll be okay. Your life will remain stable and balanced, while your emotions flow as you choose. You will love every part of yourself enough to allow it to feel what it’s choosing to feel, and gently direct it toward something new when you are ready.
This process creates a new pattern of thought, which in turn grants you the ability to see new opportunities. This is the foundation of emotional and mindset mastery. If you’re ready to explore this further, you can dive into a process through the 13 chakras to master the command of your emotions, thoughts, and your reality. If this interests you, I recommend exploring the Ignite Your 13 Chakra Blueprint event, and be sure to check the schedule for the next available class.
