Has anyone else found that feeling truly calm is deeply uncomfortable at first, almost like your body is addicted to stress? This experience is what we can call the good kind of uncomfortable, a necessary and powerful phase when you are becoming someone you’ve never been. It’s important to be patient with yourself during this transformation, because of course it’s going to feel strange.
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Why Your Nervous System Resists Calm
Many people misunderstand what nervous system regulation truly involves. In short, it just means getting your body out of a survival state, that constant fight-or-flight response. For many of us, however, that survival state has become our normal. It’s what feels familiar. Therefore, when you actively start to regulate and choose calm, it feels completely unfamiliar and, frankly, really uncomfortable.
This is the moment where patience becomes your greatest tool. As long as your body remains in that familiar fight-or-flight state, your entire reality tends to loop. Your body loops, your thoughts loop, and it feels like you’re stuck in an endless waiting period where nothing new or exciting ever happens.
Navigating The Good Kind of Uncomfortable
If you can learn to be patient within the discomfort, you can begin to teach your body that calm is its new baseline. This is precisely where things get interesting and your life begins to change in profound ways. When you shift your internal state, your external world must follow.
If you can teach your body that calm is the new baseline, your perception sharpens. You literally begin to see more of reality.
When you achieve this new baseline, you’ll find that your perception sharpens. You literally begin to see and experience more of reality. This is when the synchronicities increase. Suddenly, the right people appear, the timing aligns perfectly, and the right doors open for you. This isn’t magic, it’s all mechanics. In fact, it’s physics. You are simply perceiving the frequencies that were always there, but you were previously too dysregulated to notice them.
Your Reality Is a Reflection of Your Internal State
When you regulate your nervous system, your reality changes. This isn’t just a hopeful idea; it’s a lived experience for myself and so many others. Many of you have likely touched this state, but perhaps haven’t maintained it consistently. Moving from a state of complete dysregulation to a regulated one and watching your entire reality shift is not for sissies. It is designed to be uncomfortable.
So, if it feels uncomfortable, that’s a good sign. If it feels like your nervous system is freaking out, that’s also good. This is the exact moment to lean in even more and be patient with the process. You are unbecoming your old self to become the creator of your new reality.
You are unbecoming your old self to become the creator of your new reality.
If you feel it’s time to step up, step in, and truly lean into this transformation, we are diving deep into this work. We invite you to join the classes we have for cycle breakers. You can check the schedule for the next “Break Free From Self Sabotage” event and grab your seat. I’ll see you there.
