If you’re ready to understand how to stop reactions and triggers from controlling you, especially those stemming from old patterns and programming, then listen closely. I stopped being controlled by my triggers when I realized my emotions don’t need a ‘valid reason’ to exist, and this is the key to your freedom as well.
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The Myth of Justified Feelings
Your emotional state, meaning how you feel, is not determined by your circumstance. We constantly tell ourselves, “I feel this way because this happened.” We have been conditioned to justify our feelings with a circumstance, believing our emotions are only valid if we have a valid reason to feel that way. Consequently, we end up telling ourselves stories about our emotional state, convincing ourselves that we feel a certain way because X, Y, or Z has happened to us.
A New Mantra for Emotional Freedom
Here’s the insight that truly creates freedom. It arrives when you begin to recognize that you can choose to feel good, simply because it feels good to feel good. I want you to make that your new mantra.
I choose to feel good because it feels good to feel good.
Now, as you are feeling good, you can begin to teach your emotional body that it is safe for you to feel good, even if the circumstance isn’t necessarily good. On the contrary, you can also validate negative emotions. You can realize that it is safe to feel even the negative emotions, even when the story around you is a good one.
How to Stop Reactions and Triggers by Decoupling Emotion from Circumstance
This simple shift sets you free. Your circumstances can simply be what they are, positive or negative, and your emotions can also simply be what they are, positive or negative. When you embrace this, you no longer have this intense emotional charge that drives a specific pattern, reaction, or trigger to things that happen in your life. You become free to choose how you would like to feel, and you no longer have to justify it.
Now your life can manifest positive things. Even if you still have sad feeling days, it doesn’t need a negative story in order to allow you to get in touch with those negative emotions. This is because you have all the emotions. You’re an emotional human being. All of your emotions need to be felt. They need to be heard and they need to be seen. However, we don’t allow most of our emotions to be seen, felt, or heard unless there is a story or circumstance that justifies them being there.
The Result is a More Stable and Positive Life
We put ourselves in a position where we believe we can only feel negative emotions if there’s a negative circumstance, and we can only feel positive emotions if there is a positive circumstance. But the truth is, you have all the emotions, so feel them and let your circumstances be what they are. This practice will allow you to have more and more good circumstances because your emotions don’t require you to manifest bad circumstances just for you to finally feel the negative ones.
This allows you to emotionally process and flow through all emotions, letting your life become stable. Your life circumstances don’t need to be a rollercoaster of positive and negative events. This allows you to finally just show up and be free. Stop requiring a story or a circumstance to justify every single thing that you feel and simply let yourself feel. For more guidance on shifting these kinds of repeating cycles, you can check the schedule for our next “Break Free From Self Sabotage” training event.
Practice this every day, and I’ll see you on the flip side.
